How To Pick The Right Wife (Partner): Serious Qualities To Consider

November 25th, 2014 || Relationships

THE PRE-MARRIAGE MANIFESTO

Finding the right partner you will live with for the rest your life is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. One should always treat this subject with utmost seriousness. Those who thought marriage was all about feelings and emotions, ignored certain signs on the wall for their own destruction. To marry someone is a serious business. You should understand that to marry someone is not to do someone a favor, but is a business where everybody has to fulfill his part of the business deal. You will have to do all you can to pick the right wife or husband, even if it takes you centuries. Did I say, “Centuries?” Yes I mean centuries, because marriage has ruin many lives and continuously ruining, stemming from  children,  spouses and even the society. Everybody is affected when marriages go bad or sour.Let us look  at the most serious qualities to consider before you say,”I do”:

You  Must  Make  It  Clear ,In Your Mind, What You are Looking For In Your Would-Be Partner.

 

I believe the reasons why you’ve made so many mistakes in the past are largely depended on you not knowing what you really want. You must choose someone who suits you and not what society expect of you or want. You must have it clearly in your mind of what you want in your would- be partner, and therefore you will never compromise, even one, on these qualities you cherish so much and have always wanted. If you compromise, you will live your life in full misery. Most men don’t want an “independent, empowered” women. What we all want in our women is for them to treat us like kings. Great women like men who go after what they want. They don’t like guys who are timid and who do not stand up for what they like and love. They love guys that treat them like women and bring out the womanhood in them. They love go- getters. So if you love a woman and she suits you, and satisfies all your criteria, don’t wait around until you rot.Make a move and let her know how you feel.Caution: the qualities you seek should be realistic ,and do not base your criteria on Hollywood movies.They are not realistic and therefore undependable.

Divorce: Your  Partner  Should  Not  Believe  In  Divorce  Or  Even Imagine  One

 

To make marriage work, both the man and wife must think of divorce as no option at all. It is so disheartening when someone you love so much, and you even entrusted all your life plans and shared your most secret, will one day stand up against you in the law court for a break up. When marriages go sour, it has a lot of toll on your emotions, family, children and even society. In America and the western Societies when you get married you give your wife all the power over your money and your children. If you wife is to decide she wants a divorce she can have all the benefits of being married and none of the drawbacks. Divorce weakens  the man financially . It’s a redistribution of wealth from men to women.Steps should be taken to minimize the chances of divorce. You must take extra special precaution to choosing the right wife so you can avoid the possibility of a financially devastating and ruining the family because of divorce. Divorce cases are becoming very endemic all over the world. Research has shown that every year divorce cases are increasing. Your aim is to marry one touch and not to think of divorce as an option.

Commitment To Personal Growth

 

Your partner must be committed to learning everything he can about himself, and how he can be a better person and a good spouse. Your potential partner should be willing to receive help and guidance in the form of books, tapes, lectures, seminars and counseling if necessary. It’s sometimes very disheartening when your partner is really suffering due to some personal problems, and he is not really willing to seek help. Your partner should be aware of his blind spots and childhood programming, and he must be conscious of what emotional baggage he has brought into the relationship. There is no way any relationship can work when one partner does not know his flaws or he does know he has problems and yet he refuses to seek help when he needed one. You should witness it overtime that he has personal goals programs for his own self-improvement,,and you can see specific, positive changes in him.

Questions  you  can  ask  your  partner  on  personal  growth:

 

Since you do not know your partner from Adam, the best and most subtle way of knowing your partner is to ask questions. Ask him these questions before you go too far:
1. Do you think some things should be kept secret? For instance….?
2. If I ask your past partners if you were honest and trustworthy? How would they answer? And why?

Emotional  Openness

 

The guy you’re interested in should have feelings not for you only but for people also.In other words he should be sympathetic. And not only he is aware of his feelings but he should know what he is feeling, and chooses to share those feelings with you. He should know how to share and express those feelings to you. That is why it is not good to keep someone you have feelings for , for a long time in waiting. If your partner can’t I identify and share his feelings with you, then he’s not ready to be in an intimate relationship with you. If your partner can’t tell you his feelings and how he feels about you then he is not ready for any meaningful relationship. This is one of the most important attributes of a good partner.

Questions  to  ask  your  partner  about  emotional  openness:

 

1. Do you feel comfortable expressing your feeling to the people you love?
2. To whom in your life right now do you often say “I love you?”
3. What kind of feeling is it difficult for you to talk about? Has this changed overtime?

Integrity

 

Honesty, integrity and trustworthiness are essential ingredients for healthy relationships. Finding a partner who has integrity means: someone who is honest with others, someone who is honest with you, and someone who doesn’t play games.

Questions to ask:

 

1. Do you think partners should be honest about everything in a relationship or do you think some things should be kept secret? Example?
2. I f I ask your partners you’ve dated in the past, if you were honest and trustworthy, how would they answer? Why?

Maturity  And  Responsibility

 

Marriage is for adult and the matured, and not for children.You will have to check whether your partner satisfies these criteria: He or She should be able to take care of himself or herself, he should have enough money to spare, should be able to feed himself, know how to keep his living space clean. He should be very responsible and respectful. The indication of your partner’s maturity is how he respect you of:
Your feelings, your boundaries, your time, your possessions.his possession, your environment, his employees, employer or consumers and other people’s feelings.It is matured people who are qualified to get married and not children.You go to partner’s apartment  and he has not kept his apartment clean for years.this should be a bad sign to rethink your relationship with him.

Questions to ask:

 

1. Are you usually on time or late for appointment?
2. In what area of your life would you say you’re most irresponsible (finance, health, returning phone calls?)

High  Self –Esteem

 

Your partner can only love you as much as he loves himself. A person with low self-esteem loves in order to feel good about herself. A PERSON WITH HIGH SELF ESTEEM loves because she feels good about herself. Your partner takes pride in himself. Your partner do not abuse himself by being a hook-up on some alcohol related issues or some drug or some porn, but takes good care of himself. He doesn’t abuse himself or allow others to abuse him. He expresses himself in a more confident manner by talking and taking action.A partner with low self esteem,make relationship unbearable.He whines,complains of everything.Fear and trust issues are always abound in such relationships.Having a high self esteem is not arrogance but humility with wisdom and  a healthy self image.

Questions to ask:

 

1. What are you most proud of, about yourself and your life? (Notice whether he has very difficult time finding anything to say?)
2. What do you do to show your love for yourself, e.g. Bubble bath, Massages and special Vacation?

Positive  Attitude  Towards  Life

 

Negative people always focus on problems and not the solution. Negative people always resist solutions and a good change. They always have something to complain about. They allow fear and worry to rule them. They are cynical and pessimistic about the future. Such guys don’t trust easily. Any time you have a partner who sees beyond your immediate situation and sees the future as bright.If such guy  encourages you to pursue your goal, so you two can have a good future, marry him.

Questions to ask:

 

1. Do you feel people are essentially good or bad?
2. What are the most important lessons you’ve learned about pain in your life?

Age

 

Many people wonder, when is the right age for marriage and the age gap. There is no right or wrong age gap between a man and woman . Find out whether you will be happy with him. The best time for a man to get married is after 30 years of age. At that age he has had a long time to live life, earn money, and think of what he wants in a wife, and settle down a little bit. The ages of 20-30 are the wild years but after the 30 year mark men will tend to settle down. Most men under 30 years of age aren’t mature enough to make the best decision about who to spend their life with. Now remember, 30 years old is the starting age to think of marriage. That doesn’t mean you should get married at 30 or by 30. Anytime , 30-45 is a good time to tie the knot. Between the ages of 30-45 is when a man’s marriage value is at its highest. The woman should be 30 years of age MAXIMUM. 25 is even better and 20 is the best age. A woman’s body does not age well. You want the most amount of years with your wife having a tight, young, firm body. After 30 it goes downhill fast. At around the age of 31 a woman’s beauty really declines fast. It’s a trade-off, she gives you her good years and you put up with her in her bad years. Never take a woman already in her bad years. Women do not age well. Single women over the age of 30 have wasted all their pretty years have a lot of random sex and now they want to find a sucker who will take care of them without having to give him any of her good years. Don’t be that sucker.Only few women at  age 30 do not have such experiences,probably due to schooling or she has not gotten the right person yet.A young body is especially important for bearing children. Old women cannot have and don’t have healthy children. At 30 years of age a woman is already 15 years past her child-bearing prime. A bad 20 year old woman is  as good as 30 year old. The difference is that the 30 year old  woman may be a lot more bitter.

 Must  Come  From  A  good Family  Background

 

She has to come from an intact family with original mother and father. Children from single mommy homes may not be emotionally healthy. A mother simply cannot raise healthy children alone or with step-daddies.But I as have always said,there is always exception to the rule. Your main aim is to get an emotionally healthy wife or husband. Women who grew up with divorce parent brings too much baggage into the marriage, and will not know how to act in a proper family settings. However, not all guys from broken homes fit these descriptions. There are guys whose family backgrounds have nothing to write home about but they’ve turned out to be very nice gentlemen and ladies; making sure their spouses have the best of everything .They are determined not to allow the failings of their parents to get at them or affect them. In other words they turned out better than those who were raised in a good environment. There are those who were raised in a good environment but they turned out to be worse. Don’t ever refuse someone because he is from a broken home. Try and study him for a while, and when you‘re satisfied  with him you accept him.

Must  Be  Healthy

 

You must take her health issues into account. If you’re not careful, you will spend all income on her health problems.Her sickling status,so us not to give birth to unhealthy children. Knowing this earlier on will save you a lot of heartaches. You go to her house and you see all her relatives ballooned in a whale proportion , should make you think twice. She must be aware of her image and keep her body trim for you. She must have the natural body type you prefer.Although its a well known fact that every woman will gain a few pounds when they settle with a man. It’s unavoidable. You must pick the natural body type you like. That means she must have the same body type her whole life, never fluctuating up or down in weight. She should have a nice face.Avoid women who use psychiatric drugs and especially avoid women who go to therapy.

Life  Style  History

 

Your partner cannot be a drinker or a smoker . She cannot have a party girl past, a sordid past, and she cannot have gone out more than a couple times drinking. You cannot turn a HARLOT into a housewife. The more sexual partners she has had the more likely the marriage will end in divorce. The fewer sexual partners your wife has had, the better. The ideal wife should be a virgin. Remember: The more sexual partners she has had the more likely you are to be divorced in about 6 years .
If you think she needs help or that you are helping her and she WILL change then you are being foolish and you are being played. It’s going to end badly for you when you get hooked to a woman like this. Always pick a good girl. That means a virgin (or close), family oriented, pleasant, eager to help, a smiler, and patient. Party girls are for fun, good girls are for marriage. If a woman do no know how to cook , how will she ever care for her children?

Her  Philosophies

 

She must have no problem signing a per-nuptial agreement.
A Pre-nuptial probably won’t save you much money, if any, in the case of divorce but her signing a pre-nup does one very important thing for you: it shows you that she is serious about making the marriage work. She should change herself for you.When a woman is in love she will change herself to please and conform to you. She will do things to please you she has never done or liked before. A woman who is not flexible or fluid is a woman who does not respect you. Women are not men and therefore should not be held to the standards of men. A man who changes his views on the whims of a woman is a moron. A woman who changes her views on the whims of a man is a woman who is in love and wise. She should not be degraded for that because that’s what ‘keepers’ do. She must look up to you and respect you.Women marry up. and men marry down, since the dawn of marriage. If she looks down on you she will leave with your money and your children. You got to be smart and see the signs fast before she shows her real character. You’ve got to be a man that she can look up to, admire, love and respect – always.

Your Partner Should Not Have A Child From Previous Relationship /Divorced

 

Raising someone else’s child is sometimes very difficult. If you raise someone else’s child you will be taking care of another man’s seedling and there will always be another man in the picture. There have been many cases where people’s wives have gotten raped by their baby fathers. How will you feel when your wife goes to her former husband’s house so her child could visit the father, and she comes back raped? Be selfish and keep your wife and your children to yourself. They should be yours and only yours.If you can ,please don’t settle for another man’s by products.Generally, and according to research, and under normal circumstances,divorce women are unfit for marriage.Again there are always exception to the rule.Not all divorced women are unfit for marriage.Some got divorced for genuine reasons,and with that one must give such women the benefit of doubt.

She Should Be A Happy Woman

 

Any woman who is not always happy is evil and of a suspicious character. Such women are cancer to the bones. If care is not taken she will eventually drag you into her gloomy world and destroy you with her sadness. No man is free emotionally with a woman who is always sad.Any woman who sees you and he is not happy is capable of murder. Any time you see her face, you tend to run for cover. She should be someone with smiles most of the time. She should smile when she sees you. Her eyes should glow when she sees you. She should be excited each time she sees you, and reward you with her beautiful smile. You want a happy woman. You don’t want a frowning, nagging, pessimistic bride. Always pick a smiling, warm, happy-go-lucky woman to share your life with.

Stay Away From Women Indoctrinated With Evil Beliefs

 

Indoctrinated and instructed to believe that their feminine instincts are wrong and bad. This causes a great deal of confusion in their minds and, to put it plainly, many of them are unfit for marriage and raising a family. As a man your options do not dwindle as you age. Your options only increase with your age and wealth. Conversely, as a woman ages her options plummet. That’s because men age gracefully, like a fine wine, and women age like milk. That’s why you must pick a beautiful young lady. It is highly advisable for a man to wait until he is a little older to get married. 30 years of age is an acceptable starting age for a man to start thinking of marriage. Be nice, be yourself, be courteous, buy her gifts only works to put you in the friend zone and rightfully so because it’s pathetic behavior. You should avoid women who have a lazy, entitled, “me-first” attitude. Men are not women and women are not men.

Pick A Partner From The Same Culture You’re From

 

Picking a woman from your own country, race and culture is always the best solution. Some children from mix races sometimes feels alone and dejected .Their skin color and the very nature of their being are sometimes ridiculed. Mix race children sometimes feel very inferior. Some mix race children turns out to be very nice with a good blend of both races. If that option is unappealing for the reasons described above there is a whole, big, wide world for you to choose from.

Conclusion:

 

Growing old alone and with no children to carry on your name to the next generation seems a worse prospect than following this checklist and picking the best wife you can.If you don’t want to marry  and have children, should make you aware that you will not be represented in the next generation and nobody will ever know you ever existed.I wish you will be well aware for taking such a stand.And a last caution, STAY AWAY from people who are married or are in relationships. I wish you the best in your search.

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