Actors search for rejection. If they don’t get it they reject themselves- Charlie Chaplin
Rejection is one of the most painful episodes in the dating scene. Being rejected by someone you really has romantic interest in, is really not funny. Especially when you’re sure of usurping the lady and winning her love at all cost. Before you can be more successful in the dating world, you will have to try more ‘shots’. Like the Casanova’s, they are always trying new ‘shots’. They spread their nets wider so they can have more of what they want. That is why there are so many people who dread of approaching someone they really like, because of the seemingly embarrassment that characterized rejections.
SOME FACTS ABOUT REJECTION:
YOU WILL ALWAYS BE REJECTED
A few years back I asked my cousin a question about rejection, who was fairly successful with women: “Dan, you never got rejected.” He smiled, laughed and said, “I have been rejected many times and even more than the success I’m chucking now, but I KEPT TRYING”. Ladies and Gentlemen, you will always be rejected. You may be trying to love someone without getting the right responses, just because the person doesn’t like your nose, the way you walk or talk.My friends that is not your fault. Don’t let anybody make you feel inferior just because you in love with them. You deserve better.
NOT EVERY BODY WILL LIKE YOU
You will have to keep this fact at the back of your mind ,before you pick your boots and start trekking on the dating scene. You find yourself in an awkward disbelief ,and in a shocking situation when you know you have all the qualities to win a particular woman and you go to her, and she rejects you. Some people wouldn’t like you because of your color, your character or even your style of dressing or your opinions. In the same way, some people will be excited about all the things the other persons rejected you for. We are in a weird world isn’t it? What others like, others don’t. So are you. You might see someone dating a particular person and you wonder what she saw in him.
DON’T TAKE REJECTION PERSONALLY
When ever you’re rejected,don’t take it personally.See it as one of those things and move on.Never allow the things within you to be affected by the rejection.Never hate,fight or harbor any negative thoughts or bitterness against that person.Stay far off from this negative tendency,you don’t have that energy to spend on this issue.
SHE WANTS YOU TO BE FRIENDS
Sometimes people want to be a little bit civil, even when they don’t like you. The best they can do is to tell you, you guys should be friends or may be they want to check your pulses. Note, you’re not following her for you to be friends and therefore you will accept nothing short of that. You are there for the real ‘shots’ and nothing else. If you’re in business and you give a proposal, and in return the person gives you a counter proposal and you accept it, then you are not serious. You either don’t know what you’re looking for or you are being foolish. YOU can’t just be friends, period!!!
HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION
REJECTION IS GOOD:
In as much as rejection is not pleasant and too painful to bear, it has its own positive sides. Whenever you are rejected, always try and see the brighter side of life. Rejection gives you the opportunity think back and to reflect on what was conspired. Where you went wrong and the steps to take to avoid another failure. It gives you the opportunity to start afresh, stronger and more motivated than the first attempt. Loads of People have been reported saying, they found someone better than the ones who rejected them at the first theater. So calm down. Your next target should be better than the one that rejected you.
REJECT THE SCARCITY MENTALITY:
There is this notion out there about soul mate philosophy.Where people believe that they have their soul mate out there. So if they are rejected, then that is all there is.Research has it that about 50 percent all Black females in the USA will never get married. So guys you have a lot of women to spare. There are enough significant others out there. There are enough females and males ever on this planet earth in human history. Why do you want to restrict yourself to one person who doesn’t care a hoot about you?
OPPORTUNITY TO DATE MORE REFINED SIGNIFICANT OTHERS:
He refused to return your love, don’t worry though it hurts, you will be fine. In your next theater you should target more refined and better candidates than the first instant. The likelihood of you getting so scared and deciding to pick someone below your criteria is high.Probably yourself worth has been affected and brutalized, hence the fear. Take hold of yourself and the situations, and brush it aside. Make a new beginning and behave as if nothing has happened and go out there and start shooting better ‘shots’.
MAKE MORE FRIENDS:
Getting yourself worked up and lamenting, and Isolated is not the solution to this damn problem. Go out there and make more friends as possible. Some can link you to the guy you want and some can even be a potential candidate. Don’t be worried or be discouraged, some will proof stubborn and will not want to be a friend. Brush it aside and move on to the next one, you have enough to choose from.
NEVER DATE ONE PERSON AT A TIME:
This strategy will serve you more,and will save you a lot of heart aches. You take this approach only when you are not really sure of the relationship you’re in.It divides your attention and makes the search more bearable and less stressful.You know, after all, if you lose one person, there are many already within your domain to quickly choose from.Dating many people is very stressful and not a good thing.I say you choose this option,when you are not too sure.Discard all of them immediately,when you find the one you love and are sure of.
YOU DON’T NEED ANY BODY’S VALIDATION:
Some times when a guy is pursuing a lady and he is rejected, she will later criticize the guy for some character traits he exhibited hence the rejection. Why do we allow people who have no Idea of diversity and who really did not like us, to sit on judgement to advise us. Even the weirdest character has a lover .So stay put and move to the direction you always wanted. You only do minor changes if it’s needed.
NEVER LET ANYBODY CHANGE YOU JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT TO DATE HER:
Unless you are in for banging, then you can change to suit the situation. But if it’s for the real ‘shot’ then you have to be who you are. Let him marry you BECAUSE you’re you.
What we should all understand is that no matter how rich, successful, poor or educated we are, not everybody will like us, and we must accept these facts. In the course of pursuing your love interest, and you realizes that there is much resistance, you must decide when to give up to avoid embarrassment and when not to give up. There is someone SOMEWHERE who will love you and cherish you and ‘fall’ at the sight of seeing you. So go out there and find that special person and stop following those morons.It is their lost for rejecting you and not you,for you have lost nothing.
BY YOUR MAN
DON HARDER CHACON