How To Choose Your Battles Wisely

How To Choose Your Battles Wisely

 Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s
not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look
into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most
important ones, let the rest go.
― C. JoyBell C.


After the Second World War, when Great Britain had expended greater chunk of her resources on the war effort, they found it very difficult to rule the Dominions (the colonies). There were signs of near agitations within the Dominions. India after much agitations, had her independence from Great Britain which was led by Gandhi and his followers. These gestures pleased some Africans folks and made them relished the idea that they too could gain independence like that of the Indian people. They fought and rushed into independence without any background preparation. Unlike India, the British left them with well established institutions that made it impossible for any coup to take place. One man among the whole lot who tried and won independence for his country was Kwame Nkrumah of Ghana. He was cut short because he chose the wrong battle to fight. He fought against the Almighty US and the then colonial masters’ interest in Africa. He forgot that upon all the weaponry and technology of the axis, they couldn’t defeat the USA and her allies. It was completely awful to try and lock horns with the greatest nations earth without having certain powers to fall on. Though he was aware of what he was getting himself into but he did not batch, he said it to himself,” let me try I might be lucky.” No man becomes lucky by fighting against a raging tide. Nkrumah should have concentrated on his country alone. He should have formed and established structures for good governance before he tried anything. He failed miserably because he chose all his battles without, instead of within. He did not put his house in order. So they got him, inside out. Nkrumah was fighting on all front: within and without. The greatest folly one will engage in, is to fight battles within and without. If you do that, you will lose energy quickly and you will be defeated. If you will fight, don’t let the enemy come within your territory, make sure you take the war to your enemies. That is why America considered 9/11 as one of the greatest tragedy in their history. Not because thousands of lives were lost, but because they sat down for the enemy to bring the war into their own turf.

History has always been full of lessons, and that we should never lose the opportunity to learn the lessons and its principles, and then apply them privately.
People are in a lot of shit right now because they chose the wrong stuff to contend with, stemming from their finances, relationships, friendship, health wise and even acquisition of knowledge. Some fought for pride, some got enticed because of the promises of a new status they might attain. Some battles take longer than expected. But before you engage in any battle make sure the battle is worth fighting for, and don’t fight for your ego.

One great man once said, “We won the battle but we lost our peace of mind”. That is what ego leads you into. Do things not because you want the whole world to know how great and powerful you’re, but you do things because it is necessary. If you’re going start any project, these are some of questions you will have to ask yourself before you start it.These questions will help you to know how to choose carefully.

Is  It  Worth  The  Pain  I  Will  Go  Through?


America fought two great wars (2001-2010) in the belief that it is worth it.They believed that it will make their country more safer. The US led invasion in Iraq and Afghanistan will cost taxpayers $4 trillion to $6 trillion, taking into account the medical care of wounded veterans and expensive repairs to a force depleted by more than a decade of fighting, according to a new study by a Harvard researcher. Count the cost very well before you start anything.

 Will  It  Give  Me  The  Peace  Of  Mind  I  Want?


Many folks get themselves into huge programs and project that will eventually end their peace of mind. Just recently a man committed  suicide because he was so much saddled with debts,a debt that had made him lose his peace of mind. Your peace of mind should be your main goal and nothing else.Philosophers won’t tell you that all the sufferings, and the hard work you will engage in, and the rats race you always entangle yourself with, are all because of one thing and that is, PEACE OF MIND. If you’re poor, you have no peace of mind.If you’re sick, you have no peace of mind.If you have no justice, no peace of mind.You need to satisfy all these criteria before you can get the peace of mind you deserve.

 Am  I  doing  This  Because  Of  My  Ego  Or  For  Necessity?


It is good to have ego but if you don’t take care ,your ego may lead you into things you might not like in the long run.About a few months back, I just got myself into this unnecessary battle. I sat quietly and thought to myself whether this battle I’m getting myself into will lead me to where I will love and want to go. I backed out .I might have backed down, but I have not given up my resolve for the right thing to be done in both our public and religious services. I might be seen to have lost the battle, but my eyes are on the war. My mind is on the bigger picture.Sometimes It’s  better to be seen to have lost the battle and conserve more energy for another day ,than to be seen of winning the battle and have lost your energy, and zest for the next battle.


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